Creating Your Own Destiny And Finding A Job You Love! via TalkingWithTami


I hope today was awesome for you as it was for me. I was reading one of my favorite blogs from Lifestyle Blogger Tammie Reed and this post really inspired me. It was like a breath of fresh air to my suffocating soul and awakened a fire that I thought life had stomped out. I reached out to Tammie and ask if I could share her amazing post with my friends. I hope you enjoy her heartfelt entry and perhaps someone who is on the verge of giving up on their dreams find her words comforting and inspiring enough to keep moving forward……I know I did.


I will be the first person to tell you that I do not take direction well, love to be alone, like to work in small groups(if any at all) and I pretty much am a self-starter. Since I could remember, I’ve always wanted to create my own destiny. Pretty much all of my adult life, I have always worked for myself. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of times that I thought to myself, “boy do I need to just go and punch a clock and get that check and full benefits” but then for some strange reason, I figure it out. I am what you call a real Renaissance Woman!

I knew when I decided that I wanted to get married and have kids, that I would be a stay-at-home mom. I have witnessed and seen and heard many horror stories dealing with children and I just didn’t want my kids to be in a daycare or with a nanny, so I thought long and hard on what I could do to make some type of money while my kids were small. It was NOT easy, I will say that. Thank God my husband was very supportive of me and my dreams and makes a decent living but I always felt a bit guilty not having my own money. When I had Dootie and Pootie, I was back in school full-time earning my degree. It was very tough for me but I knew that it would pay off in the end, that it did.

That’s when my husband and I decided to leave our hometown and head south for new beginnings. Pootie was starting kindergarten and Dootie was in third grade, I was ready to get back to work in corporate or something but it was extremely challenging for me because I was in my mid 30′s at the time. Nobody was checking for a middle-age mom of two. I had panic attacks and went in depression for a bit because I felt like my Bachelors degree I had obtained was in vain. Thats when I started thinking of things I could do online that could make extra money to at least take some of the slack off of my husband. Mind you, I had previously owned a full-service nail salon and I was use to having my own money. I hated to ask my husband for anything although he was always willing to give me anything I needed.

Blogging was just kicking off but I was still doing my tv show but fell into it a few years later. I pretty much created Talking With Tami and the brand and found away to make money at it all. Till this day, I still have ups and downs with my own business but its always been steady. I would get frustrated just as a lot of other bloggers that I chatted with but one thing is for sure, I was always consistent with my craft! Now its been a breeze for me and very rewarding but I do look back at how it all came together.

It was NOT an easy road at all, trust me! I’ve always been a saver and a few times when my husband got sick or whatever the reason, I have stepped up to pay ALL the bills while his truck was down or he was sick. My husband is self-employed as well and it can be very frightening because if one of us falls and break a leg or arm, I just don’t know! When it’s good in the blogging world, its REALLY good but it can have slow times as well. My husband’s trucking business is the same way and when you guys see the fuel prices go up and down, that effects our household tremendously. With prayer and good management skills, we have been able to provide for our family and live a pretty decent lifestyle. I am very grateful for being able to have a job that I truly love and have fun at!

I would be miserable at a dead-end job that I can’t be creative in. I have had jobs as a: McDonalds cashier, Certified Nurses Aid, Housing Code Complaint Secretary, Kinney Wallcovering Customer Service Rep(worst job ever), Federal Government Advance Parole Agent, Nail Salon Owner, Teacher’s Aid, Publicist and now Professional Lifestyle Blogger. With all those jobs and experiences over the years, I learned a lot but I hated each and every one of them! Some of them paid extremely well. I did love owning my own nail salon though, but the hours were brutal. Those twelve hour days were NO joke!

So now over the years at this blogging thing, I am blessed to spend a lot of time with my kids, be here when they get home from school, I can work my own hours, do chores and run errands and still keep a smile on my face! Be in control of your own destiny people, step out on faith. But wait…I’m also not telling you to quit your job tomorrow lol. Take baby steps and surround yourself with likeness, have a positive attitude, ask God for guidance and you will see it manifest. I was a 35 year-old intern working at a cable access tv show with NO pay, who would have ever known it would lead to this! Money will come in due time if you stay diligent! Stay blessed, till next time! xoxo


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